All Posts by Celeste DeCamps

About the Author

Celeste DeCamps has a B.A. in Communications from the University of Miami. She worked in radio and television, was a professional belly dancer, drummer, percussionist, nightclub owner, and a sales rep for Southern Wine and Spirits for 12 years. Throughout her different career moves, speaking to and teaching women how to be more confident is Celeste's most fulfilling job.

Jul 27

Three Ways to Organize Your Speech

By Celeste DeCamps | General

"The Best Thing About Getting Older is Having a Million Stories."

If there were a contest to be the best at endless rambling, I would win every time. I can turn any conversation into a convoluted mess with no end in sight. All someone has to say is, "What's new with you?" and we're off to the races. I always have a lot to say, and it doesn't necessarily come in any reasonable order. I have a million and one stories, and any time I'm speaking with someone, there's an excellent chance that I'll be reminded of one of them. The retelling of an experience will ultimately trigger more, and my poor victim will have a hard time figuring out how we got there. Before you decide never to find yourself trapped in a conversation with me, know that I can reel myself in when I have to. When I put my presentations together, I organize my thoughts, experience, and research to flow and stay on point. Here are three ways to create an informative and engaging speech to keep you from straying from your main idea.

  1. Create your outline around one topic: Introduction, Body, and Conclusion. Your Introduction will let the audience know what they'll learn from you. It sets up an expectation that will pique their interest. The Body will include three points that support your presentation. (Most of us readily remember three points.) Your Conclusion will give your attendees a recap of your material and an opportunity for a call to action. 
  2. Use Storytelling to leave a lasting impact. Hearing someone's challenges or experiences firsthand keeps us interested in knowing the outcome or results of their actions. We always want to see how a story ends, and we want to feel motivated and inspired by others. 
  3. Utilize Eye ContactBody Language, and Gestures. Standing like a statue or pacing back and forth while you're speaking will take away from your talk. Staring at the wall above everyone's head or looking at the floor will make you look unsure of what you're saying. Practice your speech in front of your friends. Get comfortable with looking at people and making eye contact. Seeing your audience will let you know if they're engaged and understanding what you're saying. When you're telling a story, put yourself into the event. Point to the little dog, or look over the fence, and your audience will visualize it with you. Use hand gestures to add dynamics to your talk. If you have three points, raise one finger, then two, and then three. Opening your hands or raising your arms allows people in. 

The more you practice organizing your ideas, the easier it becomes. You'll transition to different points and topics more smoothly. Tell stories that support your viewpoint. Eye contact and using your body language will make you more engaging. Finally, preparation will help your confidence while you're speaking because you'll come across polished and precise. 

I may still ramble and stray from the main point, but I will keep you entertained while I do it.

Jul 19

Dance With Me

By Celeste DeCamps | General

"It's the small actions we can do for ourselves that make a big difference."

I don't have a pleasant, singing voice, but that doesn't keep me from singing along to my favorite songs. It's an instant mood boost. Of course, I don't mind subjecting my family and friends to my lack of talent because they love me unconditionally. (I'm sure they would like to put conditions on their love for me and ban me from belting out tunes, but unfortunately, they can't.) In public, that's a different story. I stick to lip-syncing and not offend any strangers' eardrums. Why am I bringing this up? Well, a friend of mine told me she doesn't dance. It's not something she feels comfortable with, and so she refrains from trying to keep a beat with her body. I completely understand, but I want to emphasize the importance of connecting our minds and bodies, and I believe the quickest route is dancing.

Dancing in the privacy of your home can be liberating. The movements put our bodies into a variety of positions that affect how we feel emotionally. Do you want to feel strong? Put your arms above your head and lookup. Do you want to feel sexy? Bend your knees, shift your weight to one side and lift your hip. Do you want to feel flirty? Put your hand on your hip and look over your shoulder. If all of this makes you feel silly, that works too. Moving our bodies to music is an exercise in mindfulness. As you listen to rhythms and melodies while you dance, it's hard to think of anything else.

The remarkable side effect of being in the here and now is stress reduction. The worries of the day and fear of the future recede for the time being. Instead, your focus is on your breathing and how your body is tuned into the music. You're not performing for anyone. This is a moment to feel good and relax, and you may find this little exercise gives you a much-needed energy kick. I suggest listening to music that's fun and upbeat. Something that makes you smile when you hear it.

It's the small actions we can do for ourselves that make a big difference. Yes, you can flop on the couch and stare at the t.v. after a long day, but even dancing for thirty seconds on a commercial break will make you feel better. Of course, there's an added bonus if you can get your family to join in. But, if they don't and laugh at you instead, it's still a plus. We all need a reason to get out of our heads and enjoy each other. We're busy being our serious and professional selves all day. So, what's wrong with being goofy and lighten the mood?

I hope this convinces my friend to dance and see how easy it is to connect with ourselves. It's a short vacation from the pressures of the day and a way to reenergize, all without having to leave home. If it doesn't, I may threaten to sing to her until she at least tries a few dance moves.

Jul 13

Three Ways to Command the Room

By Celeste DeCamps | General

"Opportunities Are Around Every Corner, and the More Prepared We Are, the Better Our Chances of Success and the Less Time We Spend Sweating."

A friend of mine confided in me the other day that networking and meeting new people makes her sweat. She said, "All I want to do is find a wall I can hold up and pray I don't say anything stupid to anybody." I told her that many people feel the same way, but anyone can take a few small steps to minimize their discomfort and maximize their potential.

Walking into a room full of strangers can be anxiety-inducing, especially when you want to make an excellent first impression. Whether it's a social or business event, here are three ways to walk into any room with confidence. 

  1. Know What You're Going to Say: It may seem silly but practice ahead of time of how you'll introduce yourself. This will keep you from tripping over your words or talking too fast. You'll have your thoughts organized, and you'll come across as a polished speaker. If it's a networking opportunity, have a few short sentences memorized that explain the benefits of your product or service. You'll find that any nervousness you may have approaching people goes away when you're prepared. 
  2. Check-in with Your Body: As you're reading other people's body language, they're reading yours. Before entering the room, make a note of how you're holding yourself. Are you standing tall with your shoulders back and your head lifted? If you want to appear approachable and open to meeting others, level your gaze to catch someone's eye. Looking over everyone's head when you come in may give the impression of arrogance or aloofness. When you walk up to a group, listen to the conversation, wait for a break in the action, and then introduce yourself. 
  3. Make Eye Contact and Smile: When we feel any apprehension about making new acquaintances, we tend to forget to look people in the eye and smile. We come across as disinterested or insecure when we don't give someone our full attention. Connections are made quickly when we learn to take a deep breath, relax our shoulders and meet the other person's eyes with a smile. 

The more prepared we are, the more confident we come across to others. So take time to practice your introduction and what you want to talk about. Pay attention to your body and make sure you are standing, walking, and sitting with good posture. As you speak and listen to others, do it with a smile. Eye contact lets them know you're interested in what they have to say. 

Opportunities are around every corner, and the more prepared we are, the better our chances of success and the less time we spend sweating. 

Jun 22

Be Nice to Your Waiter

By Celeste DeCamps | General

I read a story today about a waiter's encounter with a mother and her daughter. The pair complained that there were hardly any photos of women on the wall of the pizzeria. Instead, they were annoyed that many of the pictures were of men. The waiter tried to make light of the conversation, but they decided to be offended. When the bill came, they paid without leaving a tip. As the waiter was clearing their table, he noticed an envelope. Instead of throwing it away, he looked inside first. It contained a cashier's check for half a million dollars. He ran outside to catch the women, but they were already gone. He gave the check to his boss in hopes the women would return. When the women realized the next day that their check, which was the money they received selling their home, was gone, panic sunk in. They finally retraced their steps back to the restaurant. They were surprised that the man they had stiffed held onto their money until they were found. They offered to give him a tip which he refused. They did offer an apology to the young waiter and learned a valuable lesson. These two women made an undeserving judgment on another human being without knowing him at all.

We've all made assumptions about people we first meet that turn out to be wrong. Experience does shape our perceptions, but it shouldn't keep us close-minded. It's important to take a moment before passing judgment on a person. For example, we may not be in the best mood because we're going through a stressful time. That doesn't give us a pass to be impolite to others or decide to ruin their day. If we looked at ourselves first, we might realize that our frustration is not with others but with ourselves. If that's the case, we should go home. This way, we avoid any chance encounters that may end badly.

When I have an event to go to or just a trip to the store, I envision everyone I'll meet as happy people. I find, for the most part, fun interactions with strangers. I try to put them in a good light. If someone is a little rude, I hope that whatever is bothering them will pass soon. I'd rather move on than let another person's bad day affect me.

I'm sure many people who read the waiter's story probably felt that he should've tossed the check out of spite. He was doing his job and didn't have any say about what photos went on the wall. His customers mistreated him, but he didn't let that stop him from being a good person. I felt uplifted by his sense of humanity. It was nice to hear a story that had a beautiful ending. It also reminded me that we all make mistakes, and hopefully, someone will still show us kindness. We all would like the opportunity to redeem ourselves, and when we get that chance, it stays with us forever. 

Jun 15

Read The Room

By Celeste DeCamps | General

"When we take the time to be present for the people we're with, we do away with feeling self-conscious."

One of the biggest lessons I learned when I was a professional bellydancer was how to read the room. For example, in the Middle Eastern restaurants that I performed in, it was traditional to go over to the tables, say hello, and invite the audience to come up and dance with me. It was also an opportunity to receive tips. Experience taught me to watch for expressions and body language when approaching the crowd. If someone isn't making eye contact with me, I leave that person alone. If I see a happy, smiling face, I know they want to join me on stage. I look for interactions between couples. If a woman is watching her significant other for any signs of interest in me, I purposely walk over to her. I smile and compliment her on her beautiful dress. I tell her I'm glad she's here and hope she's enjoying herself. I don't even glance at her partner. When I get a smile, I know I've put her at ease. The goal is to make the night a fun experience for everyone. This will give people a reason to return again and again.

Reading people also helped me when I sold wine and spirits. I remember walking into an account, and my buyer was obviously stressed out. I looked at her and said, "I have two options for you. I can open up this bottle of wine, and you can tell me what's upsetting you, or we can reschedule." She said, "How do you do that? You always seem to know what kind of mood I'm in before I say a word. Let's open the wine. You listen to me vent, and I'll place my order with you." This is how I was able to solidify my relationships with my clients. I let them know I cared about them as well as their business.

Whether it's a social or networking event, we tend to worry about how we're coming across, so much so that we're not paying attention to people in front of us. We're not picking up body language, and facial expressions that give us clues to how people feel. When I enter a room, I tend to take a quick scan and try to take in the energy of the place. Does the group seem to be in a good mood? Are they talking and laughing? If so, excellent. I know I'll have an enjoyable time.

On the other hand, is there a sense of a strained formality that has everyone feeling tense? Are they speaking low and reserved? I have to decide to keep myself upbeat and not get dragged down to having a miserable time.

I remember getting hired to do a show for a house party. I walked in, and it was quiet. People were sitting or standing against the wall, barely interacting with each other. The music was low, and I noticed the concern on the host's face. I reassured him that I was going to do my best. I made sure my music was loud and created excitement. By the end of my performance, I had everyone up and dancing. It felt great to be able to turn the party around and be successful.

Meeting someone for the first time in a group setting, I'm aware of eye contact. If they're glancing around the room while I'm speaking, I know they're looking for someone else. I tell them that it's fine with me to talk at a later time. I usually get a response like, "I apologize, but I need to speak with the person who just walked in. Thank you for understanding." I learned a long time ago not to take it personally. Everyone has an agenda and acknowledging that shows you're preceptive to others.

When I have someone's attention, I make sure the other person feels heard. First, I maintain eye contact and listen attentively. This helps build a natural rapport. Next, I watch for signs of understanding or misunderstanding by how the person raises or furrows their brows. Do they nod their head in agreement or disagree by slowly moving their head from side to side.

Communication encompasses more than what we say and how we say it. Our body language lets others know what we're thinking and how we're feeling. When we take the time to be present for the people we're with, we do away with feeling self-conscious. Instead, our focus is on others. As a result, we become more relatable and approachable.

Take a moment to read the room. Get a sense of the overall mood and radiate confidence with a smile. Decide that you're going to have an enjoyable time with everyone you meet. Stay present. Your fun energy may be just what the party needed.

Jun 08

My Friends Can Do No Wrong

By Celeste DeCamps | General

"Giving People the Benefit of the Doubt, Gives You More Benefits."

I'm on the subway, leaving the city and heading back to Queens. I'm reading a book to pass the time. The doors open to allow more passengers on, and I can feel someone bump up against me. I don't look up because I know not to make eye contact. Plus, someone is always going to touch you accidentally. A couple of minutes go by, and I feel the same nudge happen. I'm starting to think that it's being done on purpose, but I don't look up. Sure enough, another bump. I'm getting mad and trying to decide what to do. Now there's no mistaking as this man nudges me again. I look up, ready to tell him off. He's very tall, and he's got a big smile on his face. I start to laugh as I realize this imposing man is my husband, Eric.

It never ceases to amaze me how quickly our attitude can change. Of course, I was relieved that it was Eric and not a strange man. Anyone that takes public transportation can tell you all kinds of weird and sometimes scary encounters. I've had my share. I find it funny how we'll instantly forgive unacceptable behavior when we know the person doing it. Not that Eric did anything wrong, it was hilarious. He said he was wondering how long it was going to take me to do or say something. I'm talking more about everyday encounters that would make us angry only to find out that it's a friend and not some unknown person.

For example, I'm standing in line when a person comes up behind me and gets in front of me. I say, "Excuse me, but I was here first." The person turns around, and it's my neighbor. Right away, she says, "I'm so sorry, Celeste. I'm in another world. I didn't see you." When I realize who it is, I'm instantly OK. I know my neighbor is a good person who's dealing with a lot of pressure from work. That's my point. If she was a stranger, I don't think I would be so forgiving. I would immediately believe this person to be self-entitled and oblivious to everyone around them.

We deal with slights like this regularly. Driving, even a short distance, is full of inconsiderate people that don't use a turn signal, slow down for no apparent reason or blow through stop signs. I want to sit on my high horse and criticize the whole lot until I make a blunder. Yes, it was a one-way street, and I was going only one way, the wrong way. It happens. Nobody's perfect.

Everyone makes mistakes, and it doesn't mean they were intentional. Instead of getting angry at a perceived disregard for my well-being, I pretend it was a friend of mine in a rush. She didn't mean to swerve into my lane. She's late picking up her kid. When I look at it from that viewpoint, I find myself a little more understanding. As long as nobody got hurt, there's no point in letting it ruin my day.

I like to believe we're all trying to do our best on this plane of existence. We may not always be our sunshiney selves, and we may show out because of undue stress. If we can forgive our friends, we can also give strangers the benefit of the doubt. I know I would like to be given a pass for inadvertently nudging a man on the subway because I thought he was my husband. That was a tough one to explain. 

Jun 01

I’ll Be There For You

By Celeste DeCamps | General

 "Maintain Your Friendships. You Never Know When You May Need an Alibi."

I watched the "Friends Reunion" on tv the other day. It was fun to see this group of actors together again as they reminisced about their years of making this much-loved sitcom. As the show looked back at its ten-year run, the program included clips of fan reactions from around the world. People from different cultures and age groups expressed their gratitude for the half-hour comedy. Some said the show was a welcome escape from their lives, and others said it made them feel less lonely. I think the appeal of this sitcom was watching people come together and supporting each other unconditionally. It's something we all look for and want from the people in our lives.

I've read articles that claim the friendships we make when we're younger are the strongest bonds we have. My friend Bessie and I have known each other since we're thirteen. When we get together, it feels like time stands still. We live in different cities now, but we stay in touch and try to visit at least once a year. We've already picked out the nursing home we'll be staying in. Of course, the older we get, the busier our lives are, the harder it is to make new friends. Our time is spent on careers, getting married, and having our own families. It leaves little room to develop new relationships.

I believe each chapter in our lives is focused on different goals. I think maintaining our friendships is essential at all the various phases we go through. Social media helps somewhat, but let's face it, it's not the same as picking up the phone and catching up. I can't in good conscience not call up a friend if they're going through a rough time. Call me old-fashioned, but sending a care hug emoji doesn't quite cut it when my friend posts about losing a loved one. It's the same when I see a post that celebrates a significant accomplishment. Sure the champagne emoji is fun, but I still want to let my friend know that I'm happy for her. Yes, I'm the person who will leave a voicemail if you don't pick up. Which reminds me, why do people not leave a message? I called a friend back, even though she didn't leave a message. I asked her, "Did you call me by mistake?"
She said, "No, I knew you'd see my missed call and get back to me." Well, she was right, so I can't argue that.

I know life can get hectic, and there's not always time in the day for yourself, let alone someone else. We've all been cooped up for a long time, and we're finally seeing the possibilities of meeting up with each other. I can't wait to have brunch again with my friends. It's not breakfast or lunch; it's pancakes with mimosas.

This a gentle reminder that friendships shouldn't go by the wayside. We all need a sounding board that'll allow us to vent, cry, or share a desperately needed laugh. It's a little extra work to maintain our relationships, but the reward of unconditional love and support is worth it. If you don't believe me, just ask Rachel, Ross, Monica, Joey, Phoebe, and Chandler. The best part, we all agree Rachel and Ross were on a break.

May 25

Flip The Switch From Negative to Positive

By Celeste DeCamps | General

 "I'm Sure the Reason the Apocalypse Hasn't Happened is Because I'm In Charge of Worrying About It."

Why is it so hard to imagine the best possible outcome instead of the worst? Why do we insist that behind every good turn of events, a bad one is waiting to jump out at us? Why are we so afraid of clowns?

The last question is obvious because, well, clowns. The other two are a little more complicated. I believe that our less-than-optimistic outlook is the result of our experiences in disappointment. Seeing a child's look of betrayal because you bought the wrong toy is a sad sight. (I didn't want the green doll. I wanted the pink one. Yes, it still bothers me. I don't know why.) Finding out for the first time that things can go wrong or not as expected makes us put our guard up. When we have a series of setbacks, it makes it even harder to believe that anything good will ever happen again.

We've all been told, "that's life: deal with it." By the way, I think being so flippant when someone is upset about a bad experience doesn't help. On top of already feeling sad, you're made to believe you're weak as well. Life does throw us curveballs, and looking back, we can see how our perceptions evolved and we learned important lessons. Finding the silver lining in some situations can be challenging.

How can we flip the switch and find a more positive outlook? Notice I said "more" and not absolute. I try to look at the sunny side of life, make lemonade out of lemons, and avoid scary clowns, but sometimes we need to embrace the possibility of failure. A friend of mine told me that he goes into stressful situations believing the worst will happen. He assumes the crowd he's speaking to will hate him, or the court case he's presenting will find him on the losing side. He said thinking this way motivates him to be as prepared as possible. He makes sure he knows his materials inside and out and can successfully deliver his knowledge to his audience. His supposed defeat is countered by having contingency plans in place. He enjoys more wins than losses in his field of expertise.

For me, visualization works. When I prepare for a presentation or a networking event, I picture it going well. I "see" the audience enjoying my talk or meeting interesting people to connect with. I set up my day the night before. I write down what I want to accomplish and decide that all will go as planned. For some reason, even when things don't work out the way I want, I still end up feeling good about my day.

When I need feedback on a new program I'm developing; I've learned to be open to constructive criticism. We can't direct ourselves. Improving our work with the help of others should be a positive experience. It's not a sign of deficiency or lack of talent. Creating your project to be the best you can make it and collaborating with others is fun. (It's a wonderful way to reduce the risk of failure, and this way, when it doesn't work out, you have others to blame for it.)

We have a choice in predicting the outcome of our future endeavors. Yes, we can picture it all crashing and burning and wonder why we even tried, or we can choose to see our goals and ideas come to fruition. When you find that your beliefs are heading toward the dark side, take a minute and ask yourself, "why." What can you do to be better prepared, or is there an action step you need to take? Before you go down the rabbit hole, call someone who can help you see the situation in a better light. Sometimes we need to hear some encouraging words or voice our concerns out loud to an understanding friend.

We do have power over our thoughts. You're welcome to believe all clowns are evil, or you can trust that all they want to do is make you smile. (I'm undecided on this one.)

May 18

Replaying the Past

By Celeste DeCamps | General

"Try to Look at Your Past With Softer Eyes."

I have a pile of VHS tapes living in a box on top of my closet. (Don't laugh, the tech you're enjoying now will be made fun of before you know it.) I decided to get them all digitized through a company a friend recommended. All the links came in today for me to download. I'm sitting here going down memory lane and feeling like I'm watching someone else's life. Friends I haven't seen in years, dance shows performed long ago, and wanting to know what happened to my flat belly.

The wonderful thing about watching old home movies is that they're of good times. Baby's first steps, birthday parties, and vacation trips are fun to relive. It's also bittersweet as I see loved ones that aren't with me anymore. I love seeing my mother's smile again, but there's an ache that reminds me of how much I miss her.

I find myself laughing out loud as I watch the toddler 'me' try to walk. I have a hoop skirt on, and it looks like a parachute that opens up every time I fall. My older brothers are encouraging me to keep trying. They're two to three years older than me, and they have the walking thing down. It's impressive the determination we have to keep getting up no matter how many times we fall. It doesn't even occur to us to quit. It does help to know others are there to help or at least laugh at our expense. Either way, it's nice to have the support.

It's funny watching my younger self. I always felt self-conscious, and yet, seeing myself with older eyes, I realize I wasn't as awkward as I thought. I do credit my feelings of inadequacy for motivating me to improve myself. It's easy to beat ourselves up, but we grow when we decide to put the work in. Self-improvement is a continuous process, and the feeling of being our best selves is worth the effort.

It feels a little surreal looking at another time and place that's a part of me but doesn't exist anymore. I don't believe in living in the past, but the past is always with me. It's with all of us. I don't buy into the idea of leaving our history behind. Yes, we should always be moving forward, but we should, at the same time, acknowledge how far we've come. Our experiences are our lessons, good and bad. We're the sum of all that we've been through and have come out stronger for it. As much as I want to change the things I regret, I know my life is better for meeting the challenges that came my way.

Try to look at your past with softer eyes. There are always going to be times when we land on our butts. It's how we handle the setbacks that make us grow stronger. It's not fun to fail, but some lessons aren't easy to learn until we do. We should have faith that when we need a helping hand, one will show up. We need each other and having the comfort of family and friends is what being grateful is all about. Our past events live within us, but it doesn't mean we have to dwell with them in the present. Our future holds endless possibilities of being better than ever before. We just have to remember to pack a parachute for ourselves and each other. 

May 10

A Little Lipstick, Powder, and Paint

By Celeste DeCamps | General

"How we make others feel is what makes us desirable."

My sister Lynette has an essential job. She makes people look and feel fabulous. Her makeup artistry is in high demand because she takes the time to listen to what people want and then delivers for them. A few days ago, Lynette posted on her FaceBook page a young woman's Sweet 16 photo. The makeup enhanced her natural beauty and was a lovely testament to my sister's work. I called Lynette to congratulate her, and she told me this heartfelt story.

The Facebook post garnered a lot of positive feedback, and Lynette was happy that her work was well received. She called her client to let her know how much she enjoyed working with her. She also let her know that she would like to use her as a model in the future. Unbeknownst to Lynette, the young woman had fallen into a deep depression. She didn't think she was pretty and began feeling miserable about herself. Her parents were unable to persuade her otherwise. When Lynette made that phone call, her mother confided that it made a world of difference for her daughter. Suddenly, the light was back on, and the sixteen-year-old felt better about herself. Lynette gave her a fantastic gift of self-esteem.

The irony in this story is that my sister worried all the time that she wasn't attractive. (By the way, she's beautiful inside and out.) I understand the concern. Growing up, we're all told that beauty is skin deep, but we all want to be attractive. We want others to be interested in us and feel special. We're bombarded with advertisements that show toned, perfect-looking people, and we believe we should look like that. What we really want is to be seen and loved.

A friend of mine, a hairstylist, once told me that the most insecure women she works on are models. She said some of them are so gorgeous that it hurts to look at them, yet all they see are their flaws. "You would think that their lives are magical and easy, but they never seem completely secure or happy." If supermodels aren't content, is there any chance for us mere mortals?

How many times have you been attracted to someone because they looked cute? You get up the nerve to speak with them, and you find them rude, dull, or unpleasant? Suddenly, you don't know why you thought they were good-looking at all. Their personality wasn't kind, and they weren't enjoyable to talk to. They may be nice to look at, but their demeanor didn't reflect that.

The truth is how we make others feel is what makes us desirable. Think about it. Who do you go to when you need a laugh or an understanding ear? For the most part, our friends and family are quite ordinary-looking. We're attracted to the people who make us feel good about ourselves—the people who encourage and cheer us on. The people who love us unconditionally are a phone call away and not the perfect image on an Instagram post.

I'm not saying forget about trying to be presentable. Let's do our best to look as good as possible by having a nice haircut and well-fitting clothes. Being groomed not only gives an excellent first impression but it makes us feel our best. When I take the time to fix myself up (it does take a while), I feel energized, and my confidence increases.

We imagine that being lovely would solve so many problems for us, but the reality is even the gene lottery winners struggle with feeling accepted.
Showing compassion, empathy, and being considerate to each other is what makes us likable. When we go that extra mile to compliment someone or lift them up with a smile, we draw people to us. Our self-assurance should come from how we can improve ourselves and help others in the process. Try it for yourself. Make someone feel good about themselves and see how great you end up feeling.

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Lynette offers virtual tutorials in case you don't live in South Florida. She has a great talent for bringing out the best in you and having fun along the way. We can always use a little boost of self-esteem, and sometimes all it takes is a little lipstick, powder and paint. 

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