I watched the "Friends Reunion" on tv the other day. It was fun to see this group of actors together again as they reminisced about their years of making this much-loved sitcom. As the show looked back at its ten-year run, the program included clips of fan reactions from around the world. People from different cultures and age groups expressed their gratitude for the half-hour comedy. Some said the show was a welcome escape from their lives, and others said it made them feel less lonely. I think the appeal of this sitcom was watching people come together and supporting each other unconditionally. It's something we all look for and want from the people in our lives.
I've read articles that claim the friendships we make when we're younger are the strongest bonds we have. My friend Bessie and I have known each other since we're thirteen. When we get together, it feels like time stands still. We live in different cities now, but we stay in touch and try to visit at least once a year. We've already picked out the nursing home we'll be staying in. Of course, the older we get, the busier our lives are, the harder it is to make new friends. Our time is spent on careers, getting married, and having our own families. It leaves little room to develop new relationships.
I believe each chapter in our lives is focused on different goals. I think maintaining our friendships is essential at all the various phases we go through. Social media helps somewhat, but let's face it, it's not the same as picking up the phone and catching up. I can't in good conscience not call up a friend if they're going through a rough time. Call me old-fashioned, but sending a care hug emoji doesn't quite cut it when my friend posts about losing a loved one. It's the same when I see a post that celebrates a significant accomplishment. Sure the champagne emoji is fun, but I still want to let my friend know that I'm happy for her. Yes, I'm the person who will leave a voicemail if you don't pick up. Which reminds me, why do people not leave a message? I called a friend back, even though she didn't leave a message. I asked her, "Did you call me by mistake?"
She said, "No, I knew you'd see my missed call and get back to me." Well, she was right, so I can't argue that.
I know life can get hectic, and there's not always time in the day for yourself, let alone someone else. We've all been cooped up for a long time, and we're finally seeing the possibilities of meeting up with each other. I can't wait to have brunch again with my friends. It's not breakfast or lunch; it's pancakes with mimosas.
This a gentle reminder that friendships shouldn't go by the wayside. We all need a sounding board that'll allow us to vent, cry, or share a desperately needed laugh. It's a little extra work to maintain our relationships, but the reward of unconditional love and support is worth it. If you don't believe me, just ask Rachel, Ross, Monica, Joey, Phoebe, and Chandler. The best part, we all agree Rachel and Ross were on a break.